Is there something in your life you need to “let go” of? Can you feel yourself resisting? Our lives and our values are constantly changing and what may have been important two, five or even ten years ago has most likely changed. Letting go has a lot to do with giving ourselves and others permission to move forward. Maybe this little tidbit will serve as a bit of an analogy for you.
This week, a good friend of mine is picking up my horse. She’s a beauty and was a childhood dream fulfilled. The one thing, throughout my childhood that I wished for became a reality in my thirties. “Charmer” (that’s her name) and I spent many hours together. She was there for me during some of the loneliest moments of my life, her sweet temperament having helped me get over my fear of horses after a terrifying experience when I was a young girl. I feel like I owe her something because of that. So, I’m letting her go. I know it’s for her best interests, and for mine too.
My life has changed, what’s important to me has shifted, from a stand point of personal growth and necessity. It doesn’t mean I don’t love her any less. It’s just time to move forward. And yet, I can still feel my resistance in letting go, to keep things the way they were, because there is some sort of strange comfort in doing things the way we have always done them. Add in a few expectations and there you have a nice little formula for staying stuck.
What I’ve come to realize is that, although letting go of the things that have been part of our story for a long time can be difficult, holding on to them keeps us stuck in the past. Even though I don’t really want to let her go, I know I must. Having her here is weighing on me, I feel guilty that I’m not showing up for her like I used to and it’s costing me, and when I say that I’m not just talking about money. This may sound cold and callous, and it’s for sure not meant to, maybe that’s my own guilt – that voice in my head that is telling me what I “should” be doing. The voice that imposes expectations on me based on what exactly? To live by some set of rules/expectations and life values that were part of a day gone by? What does that really say? That things MUST always stay the same?
HELL NO! We know that everything is in a constant state of change, and there’s no fighting it. It’s undeniable. We can either go with the flow, evolve and embrace what life is giving us, or we can resist and fight it tooth and nail…and then what? How much energy do we spend resisting? Would that energy not be better directed towards moving forward, instead of staying stuck?
Charmer, the horse will be in an awesome new home, with a gal that is a great friend of mine and the huge bonus is she is also a veterinarian. She will be ridden, groomed and loved like she deserves and I will be able to see her anytime I like. So, is this really the end for Charmer and I, or is it a testament to loving
someone her enough to let her go? Maybe just maybe, there is an element of me loving myself enough to give myself permission to move forward, from the old way and into the new way…
Be bold, be courageous, free yourself from your self-imposed expectations, recognise how your values may have shifted, think it terms of possibility and allow yourself to let go. There is something there for you on the other side…
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