Because she is right.
I usually get my back up when my 21-year-old, with her infinite wisdom and strong opinions proceeds to give me pointers on how to live life, but...lately I've taken up this thing called listening.
I love to dispense my "wisdom" , if you didn't know that about me, go through my blog and you'll soon find out. I do it because I love to write and it is my hope that in sharing some of my own insights, and by hopefully making it relatable, that there might be some sort of benefit to others.
Someone in my life is going through some challenges and major life changes. The way I'm wired makes it darn near impossible to keep my thoughts to myself. I want to inspire this person, I want to see them "rise out of the ashes" and "become the greatest version of themselves". I want this person to know that everything is "unfolding for their highest good"(see where the fortune cookie analogy comes in). So, I've been sharing some inspirational messages with them..."fortune cookie style". Problem is, this person doesn't do "fortune cookie style". I think, for the most part that this person may not even be reading my heart-felt messages of hope and love. I've been so busy flooding them with inspiration and wisdom that I didn't stop to pay attention to who I was actually talking to. I'm pretty sure in this case plain straight forward english would have better received. Less spiritual "gobalty goop". More straight goods.
If I want to convey a message to someone, would it not be best to communicate that message in a way that they can relate to?
When I teach yoga to a hockey team of 14 year old boys that aren't exactly ecstatic about doing yoga, how do I make it of value to them? I need know my audience. My choice of words, music(no Deva Premal on that playlist) and how I structure the class is all very dependant on that. I want them to be able to find value and benefit in what yoga can offer them, so I have taught from a place of having an understanding of what is important to them. In a way that reaches them.
While it is easy for me to understand this concept when it comes to teaching yoga, I've been missing the boat in my personal relationships. I'm going to put more thought in identifying and knowing what makes the people closest to me tick. What excites them, what's important to them and honouring that when I dispense "my infinite wisdom" onto them (HA HA HA). I don't think I'll ever be able to shut myself up, and I don't really want to either. What I do want is to create value, benefit and be of service to others.
So ladies, and the few brave gents that find themselves reading a blog with a title of Gal Pals Unite, put some thought into what's important to the people in your world. Whether that be a co-worker, family member or friend and find a way to structure what you want to communicate to them in a way that honors who they are and what they truly value. You'll take it to a whole new level! Know your audience.
Much of what I share lately is the result of personal insights that have come to me in immersing myself in the work of Dr. John Demartini of the Demartini Institute, as well as my journey as a yoga teacher which begun with One Love Yoga. This two things have created such change and growth in my world. It is with the utmost gratitude and love that I give credit where it is due. I sincerely hope that I have correctly interpreted the valuable & life changing information that I have been exposed to.